This doesn’t happen very often, because I’ve put all of my Social skill proficiencies into Creative Misanthropy, but every once in a while someone will mistake me for a helpful person. (Mysteriously, this happens all the goddamn time with people asking me for directions. Joke’s on them!)
Now, the reason this is a problem is that most people, when they ask for advice, are asking for validation — they’ll start out by hinting subtly (or otherwise) at what they want to hear, then expect me to tell them to do what they’ve already decided to do, with a little personalized twist that they can ignore but which lets them maintain the fiction that I’m not just parroting their own biases back at them. This works out great in code reviews, because it’s usually bluntly honest: “So, I copy-pasted this code two different places… I should probably just make it a function. Tell me to make it a function and I’ll do it, but it’s just enough of a pain in the ass that I haven’t done it yet.” “Yeah, I think that’s worth making a function.” “Okay, done.” My colleagues are awesome that way.
Most everywhere else, the pattern breaks down. If someone asks me for tips on losing fat, for example, they’ll probably hint that they really ought to spend more time walking their dog and should probably drink a bit less wine, and expect me to add in something safely iconoclastic like “try to avoid processed grains”. Haha, nope! When you ask me how to do something, my brain goes into Nerd Mode and you get a blithely honest answer based on my obsessive research into the topic and roughly tailored for what I think your situation might be, or maybe just what I’m excited about at the time. I’m not going to tell you to walk your dog and cut back on the alcohol; I’m going to tell you to join a powerlifting gym and eat keto with a carb load one night a week. And then you’re going to stammer out a half-dozen half-formed excuses and avoid me for the next week and a half.
So mission accomplished, I guess, but the part that boggles my mind is when you ask me the same question a month later and expect a different result.